Written by Missy 5/10/2026

How do I say no?

Hi friend! It’s been a while since I’ve written a post for you, and in praying about what to share, I think it’s important to talk about boundaries. I know it’s hard to stand up to someone and say no, but it’s an important step towards getting free.

Beyond that, it’s something that strengthens you and gives you confidence to state what’s best for you. Not to make someone else feel better, but what will build you up.

It’s not your job to keep trying to fill everyone else up. You cannot be everything to everyone.

I know that this is a hard truth to accept, and even harder to tell someone else. Sometimes our brains go right to criticizing what we believe – holding up our own values against what other people are saying. But this is not sustainable, and even more, it’s not healthy. It’s not fair for anyone to expect others to answer their life problems.

Only Jesus is God, and only He can be a Savior. It’s not your job to save anyone.

The Bible tells us to let our no be a no, and our yes be a yes (Mathew 5:37). This is hard to enforce – trust me, I know. But it’s so important that we don’t try to put other people’s burdens on our own shoulders. There is enough trouble to worry about in your own life; you don’t have the time or energy to take on someone else’s. 

You cannot be expected to take care of yourself, your own career, social life, and health while giving the same energy to someone else. We simply weren’t designed to do that. Jesus is the only one who can truly carry that weight. And we need to learn that He wants to – He doesn’t ask us to carry our worries and stresses alone. Friend, He wants to do it for you!

Mathew 11:28 tells us to “Come to me [Jesus], all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.” Jesus wants you to have peace in life, not be anxious about carrying and holding up everyone around you. At some point you’re going to break, and you won’t be strong enough to pick yourself up.

Friend, give Jesus all your burdens. Follow along with me, say this to your Heavenly Father honestly – with your heart.

Father, I’m tired. I’ve been trying to carry so much weight alone, and I can‘t do it anymore. I don’t want to do this without you, and I want your help. Take these burdens from me, and give me rest. In your word you say to come to you – here I am. Please help me. Amen

That was very brave, and I thank you for taking the time to say this prayer. It’s an important first step in healing and recovering.

Always remember the one who is there to hear you and walk beside you, especially when you don’t know where else to turn. He is waiting, with open arms.

With love,
Missy