From a Kid
Feb 4, 2026 By Missy
Hello friend! If you’re reading this post, I want you to know that you’re not alone. What happened to you, what happened to your mom, your siblings, is not your fault. I know that’s hard to believe, and I get it. When I heard what horrible things happened to my mom, my sisters, and my brothers, I wouldn’t believe that either. But you need to trust me on this.
We can’t stop what we don’t know.
We can’t prevent what we aren’t aware of.
The guilt and shame you are feeling now is not because of anything you did or said. As much as I look back on what life was like when my dad was in the home; and regret times that I wasn’t there or didn’t say anything; I can’t change the past. And neither can you.
We can’t blame ourselves for what someone else did.
It’s hard to hear, I know. All I wanted to do was argue back and say that I could have been there, I could’ve done something – anything. But I couldn’t. Maybe one of the best things I did in my healing process was release myself. Say it with me. [Your name], I release you. You did your best, and I love you for that. And for the things you didn’t do or didn’t say, sweetheart, Jesus forgives you.
If we ask for His help, healing can happen.
That was maybe one of the hardest things for me to do in my healing journey. Even now, writing this out brings me to tears. Because I know that we hold ourselves responsible for too many things. We put burdens on our own backs that we can’t carry. It takes a lot of strength, a lot of courage to say what you’ve just said. It’s a very important step in your journey, and I am so proud of you. Thank you for trusting me with this intimate moment. It means so much to me that you took that step, and that I could be there to take it with you.
As you move forward, and as you try to pick up the pieces of what your life was, or maybe what you wished it was, I want to encourage you.
This isn’t the end, this is a new start.
From today on, you know better and can do better. Together, let’s learn about what abuse is so we see the warning signs. Let’s talk about what’s healthy and what isn’t. One day soon you’ll be able to walk with someone else just like I did with you. But right now, focus on you. Take time to journal, to spend time outside in the sunshine. You have been through so much – you deserve a break. And most importantly, let yourself cry. Let yourself let go.
It’s ok, I’m right here. God’s here with us.
Thank you, dear friend, for taking some time out of your day to do this with me. I know it’s hard, and you’re doing the best you can. Be encouraged, you took a huge step! Keep taking steps forward. One at a time. You got this. 🙂
With love,
Missy
P.S. As you start this new journey, read Psalms. That’s where I went to learn how to put words to my feelings and share them with God. Anyone will do, but I really liked Psalm 23 and 103.